10 Feng Shui Tips to Spice Up Your Love Life and Bedroom

10 Feng Shui Tips to Spice Up Your Love Life and Bedroom

We all know Feng Shui is an ancient Chinese form that creates harmony in the environment. There are many things we can take from it and adapt to our beliefs and values. Here are 10 Feng Shui Tips to Spice Up Your Love Life and Bedroom, both things to avoid and do.

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  1. Take out all clutter. Over time we accumulate a lot of things. Whatever the “things” are from clothes, perfumes, trinkets, simplify your life by keeping only the best of the best. The rest only gather dust and deplete good energy.
  2. Remove all electronics. This includes Laptop, tablet, smartphone, Television and any other devices that are not essential to sleeping and enjoying your spouse.
  3. Transfer all non-essential furniture and exercise equipment like treadmills to another room or garage.
  4. Remove all photos and statutes of living beings, including family photos.
  5. Clear all artificial artifacts including silk plants.
  6. Get a bed that is neither too high or too low. Get a new mattress whose firmness matches both of your needs. Leave space on both sides of the bed to create space and easy access with a wall behind the headboard. Avoid facing the bed directly towards a door. The bed should be not too small (that you feel one of you may fall off) or too large (that you get lost in it). Full and queen size provide space and intimacy
  7. Use natural high thread cotton sheets that provide a silky smooth but non-slippery feel. Wash them frequently at least once a month.
  8.  Paint your walls with earth tone colors. It’s ok to have red, pink or purple to accent the room but they are bold passionate colors that should be used sparingly.
  9. Use balance as a criteria to place things on either side of the bed so that they are in pairs. eg two night stands, two lamps.
  10. Make your bedroom Sensual, Serene, Spiritual, and a Sanctuary. Do not discuss or even think about life’s problems in the bedroom. Leave all anger and resentment outside and best of all just forgive.
  11. Ok This is a bonus one. Go to bed together, use nice scent, candles, mood lighting, cushy but firm pillows (more than what you sleep with), make your bed in the morning, every morning, and start and end your day with gratitude to God and then your spouse.

 

 

10 Common Wedding Planning Mistakes to Avoid for a Perfect Muslim Wedding

10 Common Wedding Planning Mistakes to Avoid for a Perfect Muslim Wedding

Let’s start off with the fact that mistakes will happen. However, with careful planning at least common ones can be avoided. Plan, Pray, and hope you have a great wedding.

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  1. Running Late
    Desi Time, Arab Time, Muslim Time: It comes in many names. There is nothing more annoying than seeing on the invite for Nikkah and Reception (Please be on time) and then the host, bride, groom(or whoever) are running totally late. If you expect your guests to be on time, you as host have to set a good example.
  2. Boring Wedding Speeches by the whole entourage
    For you as a bride or groom, it may be very sentimental to have all your siblings or all your close friends give a speech. Especially when the speeches precede dinner, there is nothing more frustrating than having hungry guests bored out of their minds listening to endless speeches which are only of interest to the bride or groom. If you still insist on having them at least overlap them with dinner.
  3. No Agenda
    Both for Muslim guests and Non-Muslim ones it creates anxiety when they don’t know what is coming up and when. Besides a printed agenda, it is the job of the M.C. to follow the adage, “Tell them what you are going to tell them, tell them, then tell them what you told them.
  4. Unprepared Father of the Bride or Groom Speeches
    For an event that is so important for their son or daughter it is surprising how many fathers or family members will go in saying, “I was just told I have to give a speech”, “I didn’t have time to prepare.” Really? Consider how much time and money you will invest into the wedding. If you’re not a toastmaster and or comfortable in public speaking, it doesn’t cost much to get help with your wedding speech.
  5. No Wedding Rehearsal
    Although wedding rehearsals are common in American weddings, they are less so in Muslim weddings. We’re not advocating having a Nikah rehearsal. At least the receptions main entrance and farewell should be thought about. In one particular wedding, the bride and then the grooms families made the entrance,  the bride and groom were announced about to enter, and in comes an elderly uncle with a walking stand  (true story). Yes stuff happens but with just a little coordination, major gaffs can be avoided.
  6. Cutting Corners and Cost on Catering
    Every Parent and host wants to offer truly amazing food on their son or daughters wedding. However, not every wedding’s food is that great. Why the gap? When you meet with a caterer, you will request certain dishes and possibly do a tasting. Unfortunately, when food is prepared en-mass it is not always to the same level. If you start to negotiate with a caterer, the caterer may cut corners. Eg including less meat in a dish or rather than using boneless meat, just using bony meat which doesn’t sit well with guests. If you are working on a budget, it is better to cut on another area (eg number of guests) rather than on the menu.
  7. Free for all Food Lines
    In a large wedding, there is nothing worst than when finally it is time to eat, everyone is told “dinner is available.” Guests get stuck in long buffet lines. Manage the lines by announcing one table at a time.
  8. Mixing up Cuisines
    Although it is tempting to accommodate guests from different backgrounds, it is better to stick to one theme. Most caterers have one specialty. Imagine going to a restaurant where they serve Afghan, Pakistani, Nepalese and Chinese food? An exaggeration but hope we make the point of having a focus.
  9. Too many desert choices
    Choice is nice, but too much choice actually works against you as a host. We have experienced this at multiple weddings where the hosts have generously offered eg multiple types of cupcakes, mini-deserts etc. Rather than picking just one, not knowing which one they are going to like, guests fill their plates. They end up eating possibly one, wasting the rest, and worst of all leaving no desert for the guests at the tail end of the line. Keep it simple and avoid too many choices within a category. For example cupcakes and fruit is fine as they are two different categories.
  10. Not Acknowledging Guests and Hosts
    It is human nature that we like to be acknowledged. For hosts it is important that as guests walk in they are greeted. Once the reception is in full play it is a nice gesture if the bride and groom walk around the tables and thank the guests. The alternative is for the parents to do it. Similarly there is a lot of work the bride and or grooms family puts into the planning of the wedding. It only behooves us as guests to thank the hosts and recognize somethings you really like about the wedding, eg the decor, food, venue, speeches.
6 Steps to Achieve Alicia Keys’ No Makeup Look for Your Big Day

6 Steps to Achieve Alicia Keys’ No Makeup Look for Your Big Day

Alicia Keys has received a lot of attention going makeup free, something she said “makes her feel empowered.” Here at Perfect Muslim Wedding, we thought it would be a great opportunity to look at bridal makeup.

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In American culture it’s always an unsaid rule that guests should compliment the bride on how beautiful she looks. Although some makeup, properly applied, can enhance your features, many Muslim brides or bridesmaids may go a little overboard with makeup.

If you are a strong believer in makeup we are not here to change your mind.  We’re simply giving you tips on how to achieve the natural, no makeup look for your big day. Allowing you to feel fresh and healthy for your wedding day.

You don’t necessarily need to go completely bare-faced. Either way, you should follow the steps below to achieve a radiant, fresh face.

Here are 6 steps to take to look naturally beautiful without makeup:

  1. Exfoliate at least once a week, to remove dead skin cells, including your lips. Apply moisturizer and sunscreen regularly.
  2. Follow the 8 by 8 Rule of 8 glasses of water and 8 hours of sleep.
  3. Eat healthy organic and wholesome foods. Our bodies are containers of both the physical and spiritual. What we consume in food and thoughts affects our natural makeup.
  4. Being Muslim you will probably do this anyway when you make wudu, but wash your face regularly.
  5. Love yourself and love your family and friends. How you feel inside reflects your confidence and poise outside. If you are stressed, it will show.
  6. Smile and make duaa. It’s sunnah and it will make you look naturally beautiful. Be sure to make this duaa: “O Allah, just as You have made my external features beautiful, make my character beautiful as well.”

Just to reiterate, we are not taking a position on makeup. You can chose to wear a lot of it, wear it lightly or go makeup free. Any way you choose it’s important to focus on feeling good about yourself. Your wedding day is one of the most important days of your life, so stay true to yourself. Don’t feel bound by any particular trend or look. Do what makes you feel beautiful for your big day. We’re here to tell you your natural look is your best look, always remember that. Congratulations on your marriage!

 

3 Major Muslim Wedding Dress Themes

3 Major Muslim Wedding Dress Themes

In a previous post, 11 Absolutely Gorgeous Wedding Dresses, we covered the beauty of the Muslim wedding dress. In this post, we wanted to help you determine the key themes and criteria to consider for your wedding dress, and show you even more gorgeous dresses.

There are 49 Muslim majority countries in the world. However, Muslims are also of the largest minorities in Western Europe, America, India and beyond. From the 49 countries, we came up with the three major themes that you will find in a Muslim wedding dress.

  1. Western White. Most white Muslim wedding dresses are modest with long sleeves and hijab. This is used not only in North America, Europe, but also Turkey, Iran, and the Middle-East. However, many Arab weddings (for example) have gender-separate receptions and therefore allow women to get their hair done and wear a sleeveless wedding dress.
  2. South Asian. Colors are usually red and green in combination with other vibrant colors. You will also find most covered in gold and jewelry from head to toe. This is common in Pakistan, India, Bangladesh, Afghanistan and other regions.
  3. African. Africa is a huge continent where there are many variations from white to vibrant colors and patterned wedding dresses.

Wedding dresses can be variations on everyday dresses like the abaya, baju kurung, kaftan, shalwar kameez, to more elaborate like lehngas. Through fashion-fusion some dresses combine traditional cultural elements with Western fashion. Besides color and other themes, it is important to consider the time of year, weather, and if the wedding is being held indoors or outdoors. 

Measurements for a wedding dress are very important and below are the key measurements to take when having a wedding dress customized or designed.

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Let’s take a look at some gorgeous designs!

Muslim Wedding Dress

Photo courtesy of Samaah

Muslim Wedding Dress

Photo by Twende Harusini

Muslim Wedding Dress

Photo by @ramaphotovideo and Makeup by @rukhsanabeautyplace

Muslim Wedding Dress

Photo by Studio Hope.

Muslim Wedding Dress

Photo by Studio Hope. Dress by Nzinga Knight.

Muslim Wedding Dress

Photo by Twende Harusini

Muslim Wedding Dress

Photo by Studio Hope. Dress by A Dressy Occasion.

Muslim Wedding Dress

Photo by Studio Hope. Dress by A Dressy Occasion.

Muslim Wedding Dress

Photo by Studio Hope.

Muslim Wedding Dress

Photo by Twende Harusini