A PMW Thank You to Our Mothers

A PMW Thank You to Our Mothers

In honor of Mother’s Day in the US we decided to put this post together to really applaud our mothers and to reiterate the importance of mothers in Islam. We ask that you disregard your feelings or beliefs regarding whether the celebration of Mother’s Day is permissible or not. Mother’s Day is everyday in Islam, as we all know.

Our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) even advised us of the importance of our mothers: A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim).

It’s no secret how much our mothers endure from our birth until we move out or get married, but even then their love and worry doesn’t end. The least we can do is show our respect and love for our mothers as much as we can. For the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) also said: “Paradise lies at the feet of your mother.”

From when we’re learning to walk, to the very first day of school to one of the most important days of our lives: our wedding day.

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For those fortunate enough, our mothers are usually at the forefront in all phases of our wedding planning for advice, tips and the do’s and don’ts – as they are throughout our lives.

Mothers everywhere symbolize strength more than anyone else and for that they must be applauded. So this is for every mom out there, thank you. Thank you for everything that you do!

Always remember: In the holy Qur’an, we are told by Allah (SWT) to address our parents with honor and kindness, and never a word of contempt.

 

*Featured image courtesy of Marcella Treybig Photography.

7 Asian-Pacific Honeymoon Destinations

7 Asian-Pacific Honeymoon Destinations

In recognition of Asian-Pacific American Heritage Month in May, Perfect Muslim Wedding celebrates by sharing seven popular island honeymoon destinations in the Pacific. We wanted to follow our previous popular posts Top 10 Muslim Wedding Honeymoon Destinations and Top 13 Adventurous Muslim Wedding Honeymoon Destinations with new destinations for you.

In Asian-Pacific and Muslim cultures marriage is an alliance between families and is a community event. With all the diversity it’s hard to encapsulate all the various elements that make up wedding ceremonies.

From gifts exchanged to the wedding procession to “Thai the knot” (pun intended) there are many beautiful ways a marriage is celebrated. Although there are many Western influences, traditional Asian-Pacific culture is based on, “marry first, love will follow.” Where love is expressed less through words and more through actions. In rural areas arranged marriages are still popular. Each culture shows artistic expression through décor, wedding dresses, food and all the accompanying rituals.

Below are the top seven picks by Perfect Muslim Wedding for romantic honeymoon island destinations in the Pacific. We selected places that have some aspect of Muslim culture whether it be population, faith or other. As with any adventure you want to read and talk to people who can advise you of the do’s and don’ts.

In a great honeymoon you not only get to explore new places, but more importantly you have a chance to explore your relationship. Although most couples choose to go to the honeymoon immediately after the wedding, you can choose to delay it for a later more convenient or budget-friendly time. Because of course, there is budget and amount of vacation time to consider.

1. Bali, Indonesia

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Indonesia is the most populated Muslim country in the world. It is also an  archipelago of over 18,000 islands and with many wonderful destinations to pick. Maybe we will do a deeper dive into them in a separate post, but for now we just picked one of the most popular, Bali.

2. Penang, Malaysia

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Although Kuala Lumpur is the capital destination, Penang with its beautiful beaches and diversity in halal food is a wonderful place to explore.

3. Suva, Fiji

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Smack in the middle of the Pacific Ocean between Australia on the West and the Americas on the East lie the Fiji islands. With 7% of the population being Muslim this is another paradise.

4. Auckland, New Zealand

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Located on the North Island Auckland has the largest Muslim population in New Zealand. This is a wonderful starting point for your honeymoon, but don’t forget the larger more scenic South Island also.

5. Phi Phi Islands,  Thailand

Although Bangkok and Phuket are major tourist magnets, Phi Phi is a heaven-on-earth destination. A beautiful archipelago in the Krabi Province not too far from Phuket, it offers turquoise water and great resorts. It has a strong Muslim heritage with a mosque and over 80 percent Muslim population.

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6. Honolulu, Hawaii

There is nothing novel in selecting Hawaii as a destination for a Muslim Honeymoon. However, Honolulu has a important Islamic presence from mosques to the Shangri La which is a center for Islamic arts and cultures founded by the Doris Duke Foundation.

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7. Mali, Maldives. 

From the Nika Island Resort where you effectively have private beaches to the Mirihi Island Resort, the Maldives offers a “heaven on earth” experience in a Muslim majority country.

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Just for Fun Muslim Wedding Lingo

Just for Fun Muslim Wedding Lingo

We have done a couple of similar posts before on Muslim Wedding Definition and Glossary and A Little Wedding Fun With Acronyms. As our wedding vocabulary grows we wanted to add to this list. Enjoy and if you have any acronyms or lingo you would like to add, we would love to hear from you.

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WEDDING GENERAL

  • AAM: An Arranged Marriage
  • AH: Alhamdulillah
  • AHAKAS: A Hug, A Kiss, A Shoulder.
  • AHR: At Home Reception
  • BB: Bridal Bouquet
  • BED: Biggest Edifying Discovery
  • BELLE: Beautifully Elegant, Lovable-Looking Entity
  • BMW: Big Money Waster or Bring My Wallet
  • BP: Bridal Party
  • BP: Bridal Party or Bridal Procession
  • BRA: Bosom Regulating Accessory
  • BS: Bridal Shower
  • BSGTR: Bride Still Getting Ready
  • BTBYCB: Be The Best You Can Be
  • BTW2: By The Way Too
  • CATS: Cuddle And Touch Softly
  • CHINA: Come Home I Need Affection
  • CP: Centerpiece
  • CSS: Cake Stand and Servers
  • DF: Dear Fiancé
  • DFTBA: Don’t Forget To Be Awesome
  • DH: Dear Hubby
  • DIARY: Darling I Always Remember You
  • DIET: Do I Eat Today?
  • DOC: Day-Of Coordinator
  • DOWRY: Downright Obnoxious Way Romeos YoYo
  • DSLB: Doesn’t She Look Beautiful
  • DT: Desi Time
  • DW: Destination Wedding
  • EP: Engagement Party
  • ER: Engagement Ring
  • FA: Fi Amanullah
  • FAMILY: Father And Mother Interacting Lovingly Year-long
  • FAMILY: Father And Mother Interacting Lovingly Year-long
  • FAMILY: Father And Mother, I Love You
  • FATHER: Faithful And Trustworthy, Honoring Every Responsibilities
  • FUTAB: Feet Up Take A Break
  • FWIW: For What It’s Worth
  • GTG: Get Together
  • HCD: He Can’t Dance
  • HEA: Happily Ever After
  • HENNA: Her Extremely Nice Neoclassic Adventure
  • HI: Honeymoon Ideas
  • HIM= He Is Mine!
  • HM: Honeymoon
  • HOLLAND: Hope Our Love Lasts And Never Dies
  • HOPE: Have Only Positive Expectations
  • HOPE: Hold On Pain Ends
  • HOPE: Honeymoon Over Practical Entrance
  • HTH: Hope That Helps
  • HTML: Hard To Make Love
  • HUSBAND ……Heartthrob Usefully Serving Bond And Never Deserting
  • HUSBAND: Handsome Useful Smart But At Night Dangerous
  • HUSBAND: Heartthrob Usefully Serving Bariyani And Never Deserting
  • I22KATW: It’s 22 Karats All The Way
  • IANAS: I Am Not A Shaikh
  • IB: Inspiration Board
  • IGDAD: I’m Gonna Dance And Dance
  • IHO: In Honor Of
  • IIRC: If I Recall Correctly
  • IKR: I Know, Right?
  • ILs: In-Laws
  • IMHO: In My Humble Opinion
  • IMNSHO: In My Not So Humble Opinion
  • INDIA: I’ll Never Do It Again
  • IOW: In Other Words
  • IRL: In Real Life
  • ISA: InshAllah
  • ISLAM = I Sincerely Love All Muslims
  • ITA: I Totally Agree
  • ITALY I Trust And Love You
  • ITKAYMQ: I’m The King And You’re My Queen
  • IWMYAD: I Will Marry You Any Day
  • IZ: Imam Zamin
  • JAK: Jazakullahu Khair
  • JC: Juliet Cap
  • JFFWLCS: Just for Fun Wedding Lingo Cheat Sheet
  • JM: Just Married
  • KAMU: Kiss and Make Up
  • KIS: Keep It Small/Spontaneous
  • KWIM: Know What I Mean?
  • LAHO: Listen and Hug Often
  • LDIA: Let’s Do It Again
  • LDR: Long Distance Relationship
  • LIBYA: Love Is Beautiful; You Also
  • LIFE: Let It Flow Easily
  • MA: Marriage Advice
  • MABWY: May Allah Be With You
  • MALTA: Most Attractive Locality To Access
  • MARIE: Marriage And Romance Intimacy Expert
  • MBBS: Married But Beautiful Sight
  • MEHNDI: My Everso Happy Night Dancing and Inspiration
  • MFEA: Made For Each Other
  • MMIH: Match Made in Heaven
  • MOAN: Making Others Annoyed at Night
  • MOM: Made Of Money
  • MOTP: MashAllah One True Pairing
  • NAKED: No Attire Keep Eyes Diverted
  • NEPAL: Never Ever Part As Lovers
  • NGTBA: Never Go To Bed Angry
  • NGUOEA: Never Give Up On Each Other
  • NRW: Nice Romantic Wedding
  • NSD: Never Stop Dating
  • NWR: Not Wedding Related
  • OASIS: Only Available Source In Sahara
  • OK: One Kiss
  • OMG: Oh My God
  • OOTG: Out-of-town Guests
  • PC: Perfect Couple
  • PIA: Please Inform Allah
  • PMS: Punish Men Severely
  • PMW: Perfect Muslim Wedding
  • PPH: Please Phone Home
  • RLSAN: Real Love Starts After Nikah
  • RSVP: Reply and Send Valuable Presents
  • RSVP: Répondez s’il vous plaît
  • RUKHSTI: Romeo U Know How Scary This Is?
  • RWYFIL: Remember Why You Fell In Love
  • SB: Stay Beautiful
  • SEX: Sacred Energy Exchange
  • SHADI: So Happy and Delirious Idealism
  • SIMN: Sorry I’m Married Now
  • SO: Significant Other
  • SO: Significant other
  • STD: Save the date
  • STD: Save-The-Dates
  • SWR: Sorta Wedding Related
  • TEMPLE: Telling Everyone Must Pray, Like Everyday!
  • THERESA: Treat Her Exclusively, Rarely Existing Splendid Asset
  • TIA: Thanks In Advance
  • TIME: Thing I Must Learn!
  • TPIL: Two People In Love
  • TPTB: The Powers That Be
  • TTK: Tie the Knot
  • TTLW: Those Three little Words
  • TTSP: This Too Shall Pass
  • TYC: Thank You Cards
  • UWF: Unique Wedding Favors
  • WAIRS: Wrong Admit It Right Shutup
  • WATER: Wonderful And Totally Energizing Refreshment
  • WBTB: Who Burnt The Bariyani?
  • WD: Wedding Dress
  • WIC: Wedding Industrial Complex
  • WIFE: Washing, Ironing, Feeding, Etc.
  • WIFE: Wise Investment Flowering Eternally
  • WIFE: Wonderful Instructor For Everything
  • WIFE: Wonder-woman In-charge Family Establishment
  • WIFE: Wonder-woman In-charge Family Establishment
  • WMM: Where’s My Mahar?
  • WOMAN: Watcher Over Man’s Absurd Notions
  • WP: Wedding Party
  • WP: Wedding Photographer
  • WP: Wedding Planner or Wedding Party
  • WR: Wedding Ring
  • WWUYWD: What to Wear Under Your Wedding Dress
  • YBGID: Yes By God I Did
  • YCPA: You Can Park Anywhere
  • YD: Yes Dear
  • YDIP9: Your Dinner is on Page 9
  • YH: Ya Habibi
  • YJMMD: You Just Made My Day
  • ZG: Zagharit

RELATIONS

  • B2B: Bride To Be
  • BIL: Brother In Law
  • BM: Best Man
  • BM: Bridesmaid
  • BMBFE: Be My Best Friend Forever
  • FBIL: Future Brother-In-Law
  • FBOW: For Better or Worse
  • FEAE: For Ever And Ever
  • FFIL: Future Father-In-Law
  • FI: Fiancé
  • FIL: Father-In-Law
  • FILs: Future In-Laws
  • FMIL: Future Mother-In-Law
  • FOB: Father Of Bride
  • FOB: Father of the Bride
  • FOG: Father Of Groom
  • FOG: Father of the Groom
  • FSIL: Future Sister-In-Law
  • FSIL: Future Sister-in-law
  • FW: Future Wife
  • Groom To Be
  • GP: Grandparents
  • H2B – Husband To Be
  • MC: Master of Ceremonies
  • MFL: My First Love
  • MIL: Mother-In-Law
  • MOB: Mother of the Bride
  • MOG: Mother of the Groom
  • MOH: Maid of Honor
  • NH: New Husband
  • SIL: Sister-in-law

 

 

 

22 Love Quotes From the Muslim World

22 Love Quotes From the Muslim World

Love is universal yet the hardest feeling to describe. We decided to compile love quotes that will help explain that overwhelming feeling you feel in your heart. Whether you need love quotes to write in a special card for your spouse, or perhaps to write in an invitation for one of the many wedding functions, we got you covered. What are you waiting for? Get scrolling!

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  1. Come, live in my heart and pay no rent. Arab
  2. When one is in love, a cliff becomes a meadow. Ethiopia
  3. You know who you love but you can’t know who loves you. Nigeria
  4. If love is a sickness, patience is the remedy. Cameroon
  5. Love is a despot who spares no one. Namibia
  6. Let your love be like the misty rain, coming softly but flooding the river. Liberia
  7. Love for something makes a man blind and deaf. Sudan
  8. If the full moon loves you, why worry about the stars? Tunisia
  9. A letter from the heart can be read on the face. Kenya
  10. One who marries for love alone will have bad days but good nights. Egypt
  11. One who loves the vase, loves also what is inside. Tanzania/Kenya
  12. Love, like rain, does not choose the grass on which it falls. South Africa
  13. Don’t be so in love that you can’t tell when it’s raining. Madagascar
  14. Love is a painkiller. African origin
  15. “Where there is love there is no darkness.” —Burundian proverb
  16. “In love beggar and king are equal.” —Indian proverb
  17. “Love has to be shown by deeds not words.” —Swahili proverb
  18. “It is love that makes the impossible, possible.” —Indian proverb
  19. “Love makes a man both blind and deaf.” —Arabian proverb
Kids at Weddings – Yes or No?

Kids at Weddings – Yes or No?

We know the scene all too well. Beautiful hall and decor, coupled with screaming kids. It just doesn’t work. There are mainly 2 ways of dealing with this. Either state in the invitation that you kindly request no children under a certain age attend, or you can provide babysitting for your guests. Both will work perfectly fine. We will discuss how to word your invitations and how to keep the kids entertained throughout the night.

For the first option, which is probably the route most will go with because it’s just less headache. There are many ways you can politely tell your guests that no children are allowed. Here are a few ways:

  1. Adult-only Reception.
  2. We kindly request no children under the age of __.
  3. Due to limited space, we cannot accommodate children.
  4. Please no children under the age of __.

Remember to be both straightforward and polite. Most adults will understand, but others may be a bit sensitive if you don’t get the wording right.

As for the second option, depending on how many kids are expected, you can hire 1 or 2 babysitters to watch over. You can bring in a TV, movies, books, games, etc. You might want to discuss this with your venue to make sure it’s allowed. We wouldn’t recommend anything like paint or coloring, to avoid any damage to the venue.

Be sure to let relatives know whether or not they can bring their children. In most cases, you probably want to allow them.

This is your special day, if you don’t want children, you can let your guests know without offending anyone. Good luck and congratulations!

 

From Henna to Honeymoon

From Henna to Honeymoon

Henna (also known as Hina or Mehndi) has been used as a cosmetic for over 6,000 years in the Arabian Peninsula, the Near East, South Asia, North Africa, and the Horn of Africa. It is coincidentally also the region where there are significant Muslim populations. Henna is a temporary dye that has been used on brides to dye hands, feet and sometimes hair.

Photo by Tela Chhe available under a Creative Commons Attribution-license

Photo by Tela Chhe available under a Creative Commons Attribution-license

Henna is an art form used to decorate the bride and make her look extra beautiful. A henna party usually takes place a day or more before the wedding. Traditionally it has been an all women’s affair, but lately, in some cultures men are also becoming a part of the celebration. Both the event and the art form is growing in sophistication and innovations.

Although as we mentioned this is a tradition in so many regions, the history behind it was to ward off evil spirits and make sure the new couple get off to a happy start.

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In Middle Eastern culture, the bride may wear a green dress to the henna party. The bride and groom while seated have a white cloth elevated above their heads. A ceremony takes place while asking God to ward off evil spirits. and to ensure the happiness of the new couple.

The henna party could be considered the Arab or South Asian version of a bachelorette party. The bride, her family, friends gather and a henna artist paints exquisite designs on the bride. There is lots of food accompanied with music and dancing.

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Photo by Rizwan Sagar available under a Creative Commons Attribution-license

The henna artist will usually create simple or complex geometric patterns. Islamic art forbids depiction of any living form including humans and animals, but the intricate designs can still be amazing. Once the henna paste is applied, the bride has to leave it for several hours without it getting disturbed, so the actual stain that develops from this “negative” can become dark. This is a great opportunity for the bride to be pampered by family and friends.

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Photo by Robert Benner available under a Creative Commons Attribution-license

As we have covered in other posts, Muslim weddings tend to be large multi-day events. Muslims traverse so many nations and cultures, there are specifics in each which are unique. The Henna party is usually preceded by an engagement party, and followed by Katb el-Kitab (The Marriage Contract), the Zaffa (Wedding Entrance) where the bride and groom make a grand entrance accompanied by drummers. “Cutting the Cake” and the honeymoon are more recent cultural additions, but they just go to show that from the henna to the honeymoon, weddings are universal.