Kids at Weddings – Yes or No?

We know the scene all too well. Beautiful hall and decor, coupled with screaming kids. It just doesn’t work. There are mainly 2 ways of dealing with this. Either state in the invitation that you kindly request no children under a certain age attend, or you can provide babysitting for your guests. Both will work perfectly fine. We will discuss how to word your invitations and how to keep the kids entertained throughout the night.

For the first option, which is probably the route most will go with because it’s just less headache. There are many ways you can politely tell your guests that no children are allowed. Here are a few ways:

  1. Adult-only Reception.
  2. We kindly request no children under the age of __.
  3. Due to limited space, we cannot accommodate children.
  4. Please no children under the age of __.

Remember to be both straightforward and polite. Most adults will understand, but others may be a bit sensitive if you don’t get the wording right.

As for the second option, depending on how many kids are expected, you can hire 1 or 2 babysitters to watch over. You can bring in a TV, movies, books, games, etc. You might want to discuss this with your venue to make sure it’s allowed. We wouldn’t recommend anything like paint or coloring, to avoid any damage to the venue.

Be sure to let relatives know whether or not they can bring their children. In most cases, you probably want to allow them.

This is your special day, if you don’t want children, you can let your guests know without offending anyone. Good luck and congratulations!


2015 at Perfect Muslim Wedding

Perfect Muslim Wedding had an awesome 2015. From the birth of our wedding blog in 2013 until now, we have really come a long way. We hope to continue to provide tips, advice, and inspiration to help you plan one of the best days of your life. This year, we had our very first Muslim Bridal Expo which really brings our inspiration to you to life. Here are a few select accomplishments including the Muslim Bridal Expo.


Thank you for your participation and support in 2015.

Here in pictures are a few of our accomplishments at Perfect Muslim Wedding.

  1. Quality content and real weddings published on our blog and social media ( with over 100,000 impressions per month). Check out our videos too.
  2. Quarterly eZines and our totally revamped PMW Planning Guide
  3. Our first ever Muslim Bridal Expo with over 300 attendees and a 3 full page color coverage by the SF Chronicle.
Thank you to all our supporters, sponsors and vendors. Thank you also to our teams that make it all happen behind the scenes including:

  1. Blog team (Marwa Diaf, Editor)
  2. Event team (Irfan Rydhan, Farah Ghatala, Zareena Anwar, Kisae Husain, Manizeh Raza)
  3. Advisers (Dustin Haisler, Becky Roth, Razi Mohiuddin, Shiraz Asif) and IT Guru (Ahmed Khatib)

#1 and #2 in Photo collage on top.

2015 was a great success and we hope next year is even better. We really believe it’s important to have a wedding resource for Muslims. It can be quite challenging when you’re planning your wedding alone when you’re trying to find things like halal meat, and all female staff. If you have any suggestions at all for future posts, events or giveaways please do not hesitate to send us an e-mail. We want to make this an enjoyable blog for everyone.

We appreciate each and every one of you for your support. A single click on any of our posts mean the world to us. Thank you!

Real Wedding: Esau and Aleisha

Esau and Aleisha met in high school and were married on June 30, 2012. The couple got engaged in December 2011, and planned their wedding in 7 months.

“In terms of planning I would say I started with the hall first, reason being is that we had such a short time frame and our wedding was July 4th weekend which made finding a location impossible,” Aleisha said.

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Luckily, the couple found their hall in February 2012, which left them plenty of time to work out the many other details. They decided to go with The Royal Indian Palace in Richmond Hill Queens, New York.

“They did the catering for the food and decor, of course, we had to throw in extra for that,” Aleisha said.

Although the couple stated they didn’t have a set theme, their colors were red and hot pink.

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“My florist was Dennis Rigas Floral Creations which gave me an amazing price on my flowers,” said Aleisha. “Definitely would recommend them to anyone that’s getting married.”

The couple hired Raqeebah Zaman as their photographer, and later hired her again for their first anniversary photo shoot.

“Our photographer was Raqeebah Zaman, I absolutely love her,” said Aleisha. “She did an amazing job on our pictures . . . she’s worth every dollar.”

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The couple originally wanted a very small wedding, but because it was first wedding for the bride’s family and the last for the groom’s family it became a much bigger event. When asked what the best part of their wedding was they responded: the nikkah.

“I guess I can say that the best part of our wedding would be the nikkah. After 7 exhausting months of stressing and planning it all came down to 5 minutes of saying “I do” 3 times.”

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Advice from the couple:
“For any young couple that’s getting married my best advice is that marriage is a growing experience. Today, tomorrow, and the many years to come will be and is a learning experience. You’re getting adjusted to living with your spouse, learning the way he or she likes to do things and vice versa too. Never get annoyed with your spouse because things can quickly get escalated one might say something that they would regret. At the end of the day you just need to remember that you are with the person you love and the person that Allah (swt) wants you to be with. Always be patient and loving to your spouse. And the best for last: Go with your heart. No one knows your situation other than you and your spouse and what ever advice you get from others just take a minute and think it through, and then make a choice on what YOU feel is right in your heart and what will work for your marriage.”

Photos Courtesy Of: Esau and Aleisha. Taken by Raqeebah Zaman.

Press Release: Two designers from New York and California

Press Release: Two designers from New York and California among first to unveil  modest collections to demonstrate “beauty in modesty.”

Media Contact: Marwa Diaf


Inaugural Muslim Bridal Expo in the U.S. will take place in Fremont on Sept. 20

(Milpitas, Calif.) Perfect Muslim Wedding is pleased to announce the first ever full-fledged Muslim Bridal Expo in the U.S. on Sunday, Sept. 20 from 11 a.m.-3 p.m.

Nzinga Knight a designer from modest high-end fashion label Nzinga Knight New York and Donna Anderson from A Dressy Occasion in Southern California both modest dress designers will have their designs featured in the multi-cultural Muslim Fashion show.

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Nzinga Knight for Perfect Muslim Wedding

Nzinga was the first Muslim modest fashion designer featured on Project Runway and has shown her designs during New York Fashion Week at the Lincoln Center.

The event will take place at the DoubleTree by Hilton Newark-Fremont, 39900 Balentine Drive, Newark, Calif. 94560.  The Expo will have a vast array of wedding vendors, a series of multicultural fashion shows hosted by Fashion Director, Farah Ghatala, workshops relating to wedding makeup, hair, hijab and more. The purpose of this event is to share the beauty of modesty and diversity, and is open to people of all faiths and cultures.

Cultural Fashion Shows:

1. Middle Eastern/Persian/Turkish

2. South Asian (Pakistani/Indian)

3. African and African-American

For more information, please visit or and follow thehashtags #MuslimBridalExpo, #PMWExpo2015 on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

How to Plan a Wedding Party at Home

We may think that everyone wants the same thing: A Big. Fat. Wedding, but that’s not necessarily true. Some of us like smaller intimate gatherings and that’s totally fine. Others may just not have the funds for an elaborate wedding and that’s totally fine too. After all, Islam is all about moderation. You can still make your space elegant and beautiful without the big hotel ballroom.

First step is to decide how many people you would like to invite. This will help you decide whether to host it at the bride’s house, the groom’s or maybe a close friend or relative’s.

Now decide on the date, this will help you decide whether you’d like to do an outdoor daytime event, or indoor, among other details. Once you have the logistics squared away, be sure to come up with a budget. A budget will help you stay organized and eliminate stress later on.

Here are ideas from the bride and groom’s seating set-up to the food and everything in between.

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The Bride and Groom’s Seating:

This is usually the focal point when it comes to a wedding, or wedding party. You want to make sure you have a beautiful set-up for the couple. This can be easily done. All you have to do is either rent a backdrop or create your own with PVC pipes and beautiful fabric, lights or candles. Once you have the backdrop you can add side tables with floral arrangements, which you can easily purchase the same day and arrange in a vase. We suggest checking Dollar Tree or the 99 Cent store for vases. Then you need of course chairs or a small love seat. You can either use something from home, borrow from a friend or relative, or rent. Because you’re not spending thousands renting a hall, you can use the funds towards renting little things here and there.


Guests’ Seating:

Now you need to either rent tables and chairs, or even check with your local mosque as they may let you borrow. It may be more cost effective to rent long tables (as they fit more people), but if you can splurge a little round tables are more appealing to the eye. This works best if the event is being held outside. If the event is inside, it all depends on how big the space is. If it’s on the small side, you can set up chairs around the room. It will work just fine.

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If you’re going to rent the tables, the centerpieces are really a piece of cake. You can purchase vases again from a dollar store, and simply purchase a couple of bouquets of flowers from the grocery store and assemble away! Not into flowers? You can fill the vases with water and have floating candles. Both are beautiful, elegant, and easy on everyone’s wallets. Candles can also be purchased at a dollar store.

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The Food:

The food can be difficult if you allow it to be. There are many options. Again, because you have saved tons of money by having the event at a house, you can splurge on the food. So go ahead and book your favorite caterer. If you’re hoping to cut even more costs, you can have people in the community help cook. If you have about 10 people each responsible for a dish, you’re all set! Now with the silverware and plates, you can either go plastic or rent, again all depending on your budget.



You may think the cake is difficult, but it’s really not, especially for a more intimate event. You can go to your local grocery/bakery and have them make a simple round cake, for the bride and groom to cut and order a couple dozen cupcakes, or a couple large sheet cakes for your guests. You can also accompany your cake with a small candy bar, everyone loves candy.



This is the time to really utilize talents of people in your community, family, or friends. Most of the time it’ll be a lot cheaper, or if they’re family, it’ll more than likely be “on the house” (no pun intended). Depending on what your budget allows, you can also hire professionals. They usually charge by the hour, so plan accordingly.

There’s nothing wrong with a simple, yet elegant wedding party at home. All you need is to be organized and utilize the talents of your family, friends, and community. We need to all remember that a wedding is a celebration of your love and start of a new life together. Don’t get lost in the big, fancy, elaborate wedding. A simple, intimate wedding is really all you need.


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