We may think that everyone wants the same thing: A Big. Fat. Wedding, but that’s not necessarily true. Some of us like smaller intimate gatherings and that’s totally fine. Others may just not have the funds for an elaborate wedding and that’s totally fine too. After all, Islam is all about moderation. You can still make your space elegant and beautiful without the big hotel ballroom.
First step is to decide how many people you would like to invite. This will help you decide whether to host it at the bride’s house, the groom’s or maybe a close friend or relative’s.
Now decide on the date, this will help you decide whether you’d like to do an outdoor daytime event, or indoor, among other details. Once you have the logistics squared away, be sure to come up with a budget. A budget will help you stay organized and eliminate stress later on.
Here are ideas from the bride and groom’s seating set-up to the food and everything in between.
The Bride and Groom’s Seating:
This is usually the focal point when it comes to a wedding, or wedding party. You want to make sure you have a beautiful set-up for the couple. This can be easily done. All you have to do is either rent a backdrop or create your own with PVC pipes and beautiful fabric, lights or candles. Once you have the backdrop you can add side tables with floral arrangements, which you can easily purchase the same day and arrange in a vase. We suggest checking Dollar Tree or the 99 Cent store for vases. Then you need of course chairs or a small love seat. You can either use something from home, borrow from a friend or relative, or rent. Because you’re not spending thousands renting a hall, you can use the funds towards renting little things here and there.
Now you need to either rent tables and chairs, or even check with your local mosque as they may let you borrow. It may be more cost effective to rent long tables (as they fit more people), but if you can splurge a little round tables are more appealing to the eye. This works best if the event is being held outside. If the event is inside, it all depends on how big the space is. If it’s on the small side, you can set up chairs around the room. It will work just fine.
If you’re going to rent the tables, the centerpieces are really a piece of cake. You can purchase vases again from a dollar store, and simply purchase a couple of bouquets of flowers from the grocery store and assemble away! Not into flowers? You can fill the vases with water and have floating candles. Both are beautiful, elegant, and easy on everyone’s wallets. Candles can also be purchased at a dollar store.
The food can be difficult if you allow it to be. There are many options. Again, because you have saved tons of money by having the event at a house, you can splurge on the food. So go ahead and book your favorite caterer. If you’re hoping to cut even more costs, you can have people in the community help cook. If you have about 10 people each responsible for a dish, you’re all set! Now with the silverware and plates, you can either go plastic or rent, again all depending on your budget.
You may think the cake is difficult, but it’s really not, especially for a more intimate event. You can go to your local grocery/bakery and have them make a simple round cake, for the bride and groom to cut and order a couple dozen cupcakes, or a couple large sheet cakes for your guests. You can also accompany your cake with a small candy bar, everyone loves candy.
This is the time to really utilize talents of people in your community, family, or friends. Most of the time it’ll be a lot cheaper, or if they’re family, it’ll more than likely be “on the house” (no pun intended). Depending on what your budget allows, you can also hire professionals. They usually charge by the hour, so plan accordingly.
There’s nothing wrong with a simple, yet elegant wedding party at home. All you need is to be organized and utilize the talents of your family, friends, and community. We need to all remember that a wedding is a celebration of your love and start of a new life together. Don’t get lost in the big, fancy, elaborate wedding. A simple, intimate wedding is really all you need.