We all want to look perfect, beautiful and dazzling on our wedding day. To look and feel great you need to be rested, relaxed and let your happiness radiate from your every pore. Making sure your dress, your hair, your makeup, and teeth are all looking good is the key to being your beautiful best.
However, beauty is often too narrowly defined. If you can view beauty as both inner and outer, you can be your beautiful best. Put down the Bride’s magazines, as your visual field is impregnated with images of unreal women (often digitally enhanced and reshaped). When you feel good about yourself, it will project into confidence. When you recognize that beauty comes in different colors, shapes, and sizes, you do not have to conform to a single standard.
According to a Prophetic saying “God is beautiful and loves beauty,” as well as “O Allah, as You have made my appearance beautiful, likewise make my character beautiful.” Beauty is about the whole self. If we realize that Allah does not create anything except with beauty and perfection we can learn to be content with who we are, and not die to be who we are not.
From a Muslim perspective, remember that we should pay attention to our appearance and to look attractive within the permitted bounds. Showing your beauty is intended for your future husband and mahram relatives. The general Islamic rule that you can apply is not go overboard. Following the path of moderation works every time. By default you will be the center of attention, so do not fall prey to viewing this as a fashion show or competition where you have to outdo others.
For your inner beauty, focus on acts of worship including prayers, acts of charity and supplications (duas). Do not let cultural superstitions take over your wedding. Take care of your health. Eat in moderation wholesome foods and drinks. Exercise regularly, take care of your body and oral hygiene. Take good care of your hair. Wear clothes that are not only clean but make you feel comfortable and good.
Iconic actress Audrey Hepburn once said in a beautiful quote, “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.” Your inner beauty radiates to create your outer beauty, so you can start by accepting who you are and your looks. Focus on the nice features Allah has blessed you with. Remember it’s all a package that we are endowed with.
Caring about your appearance will reflect in your inner confidence. You will most probably work with a beautician, so we’ll let them take care of the details like the hair, the makeup and everything else you need to get ready. In addition to looking your beautiful best here are a few other tips:
- Less is more, even in Fashion and Beauty. This applies to jewelry, makeup and other accessories. They should complement your dress not compete with them.
- Wear moisturizer daily all over and exfoliate once a week.
- When you feel good, you look good. The weeks leading up to the wedding are more important than trying to do too much grooming on the day of or the day before.
- Wear your wedding shoes beforehand so they are comfortable on the big day. A great way to do this is to wear them while cleaning the house.
- Do a rehearsal of all the events and places, so on the big day, you are as prepared as can be. The less surprises the less stress you will have to endure.
- Visit the dentist and get your teeth whitened.
- Drink water and stay hydrated.
- Get plenty of sleep.
- Start off the day by taking a shower and praying Fajr. Let your hair air-dry.
- Although accidents can and do happen, simple precautions like not allowing coffee, sodas or other spills ruin your dress and day.
- Ditch the coffee, tea and anything with caffeine. You’re adrenaline will keep you going.
- Wear waterproof makeup as there is a high likelihood that you may cry or get teary.
- Breathe. It sounds obvious but when you’re tense you take shallow breaths.
A human being is far greater than the sum of her (or his) parts. Do what you can to make this memorable day one that not only is blessed through prayers, but shows your joy and beauty all around. May you, your spouse and families bring out the beauty of each other and have a blessed and beautiful wedding.