It is not easy bringing our heaven and earth together. Unless you are a scholar or a student of deen, it is sometimes very challenging to connect our faith to every day life. In this post we will discuss detachment, contentment and inner beauty. We would also like to share some of the highlights from The Guru in You: A Personalized Program for Rejuvenating Your Body and Soul by Cameron Alborzian.
It is an amazing book, we do not know the authors faith, but many of the questions he asks and the spiritual path he shares overlap with Islam and the Prophetic way. Below is most of the table of contents, can you make a connection?
- We become attached to the material world. First step towards happiness is intention (niyah).
- The practice of nonviolence, kindness towards ourselves and others.
- Practice of detachment, allowing what nature intends for us.
- Letting go of excess, knowing when enough is enough for the perfect amount.
- Posture, practice, and the pursuit of inner beauty.
Questions to ask ourselves:
- Do you fill your life with constant chatter and entertainment?
- Am I constantly eating or drinking (even if its soda)?
- Do I constantly watch TV or films?
- Am I always in front of a computer or phone?
- Do I constantly watching everything that passes by on the street?
- Am I constantly listening to music or talking on the phone?
To detox the author says we don’t need products, just drink hot water for several days. Here are some more nuggets:
With the above examples, when our senses our stimulated our breath goes out of balance.
Our stimulated senses induce attachments and desire.
We love our opinions, we love having them. Learn to listen to difference of opinion.
Detachment. For example, when watching a a game, rather than hoping one side wins, just enjoy the game. You will be less drained from the experience.
Enjoy friends’ company. You don’t have to fill silent gaps with meaningless chatter. It is good to have silent moments.
The author shares a great example of attachment. We apply for a job, we see that we have a perfect fit. You see yourself in that role. We become attached to it, and then crushed when we don’t get it. Detachment means telling ourselves that experience may not pan out as we would like, another one is around the corner, nature (God) didn’t intend it for us.
If we are attached to getting an object (maybe a car or whatever) detachment from goods and objects when you don’t get them means there may be a better time to get that object or it may be beneficial to not have it all.
A great example he share which we can put into practice, is going to a bakery where you love the smell and are tempted to try out the pastries. Instead we go, take in the aroma, but control ourselves. The next time we go again we can up the ante, but each time you are in control. The key takeaway is we don’t need instant physical gratification.
What happens when we become fearful of not getting something. Fear leads to desperation (not inspiration).
We need spiritual freedom, a fully realized state, beyond material, mental, and emotional limits.
Practice non-violence towards self and others. In self talk this means avoiding ‘I’m not smart enough, I won’t ever find success, I’ll never get married.”
Cultivate sexual energy. The practice of guarding and cultivating our sexual energy and finding that balance of extremes of frustration (not having sex) versus excess.
It is hard to encapsulate a wonderful book like this, but hopefully it gives you a flavor.