Planning a wedding is not a breeze, but planning a Muslim wedding…no scratch that, its not any easier. Many Muslim weddings are separated by gender, the couple will usually rent out 2 separate halls, 1 for the women and 1 for the men. Why you ask? First, many Muslims believe genders should not mix in any way. Secondly, there are Muslim women who wear the headscarf, known as the hijab. Women who wear the hijab are allowed to reveal their hair in front of other women and males who are related to them. Having separate halls allows for women to dress up and let their hair down for an evening. As the couple, you now have to worry about two spaces. And really, why should the women have all the fun?
Most men do not care for over-the-top decor, so keep it simple. They can do without the colorful lighting and strands of roses. You really want to focus your energy on one thing for men: the food.
My husband always wanted to serve hot wings at our wedding (on the men’s side of course), red wing sauce and a snazzy suit? Not such a good idea. Looking back, maybe we should have had those wings – or better yet, a buffet.
A buffet, now that will really appeal to the men’s side. Women see a well-decorated space as a great wedding, but men, all they really have to look forward to is the food. So make sure it is perfection. A few hotels now offer “zabiha” options in their meal packages, so explore different venues before deciding.
Candy bar on the women’s side? Create one for the men too. This is was one of the easiest and cost friendly forms of entertainment. Yes, food is entertainment.
Now for the cake, instead of having one cake on the “women’s side” and having to worry about getting it cut for both spaces. Order a groom’s cake, and make it a little fun. Something that speaks to his interests.
Remember if your events are separated, ask for gender-appropriate staff for each hall. You want to avoid making any of your guests feel uncomfortable.
These are just suggestions. Remember, every couple is different, you just need to tailor your reception to meet your particular needs and wants.