Q. Where do Muslim weddings take place?
A. At home, reception hall or more frequently, a mosque.
Q. Who performs the Muslim wedding ceremony?
A. Can be anyone from the Muslim community who is respected, but typically an imam.
Q. What takes place in the Muslim wedding ceremony (nikah)?
A. Although there are many cultural and personal variations, here are the most common:
- Consent of bride and groom and bride’s father for the marriage.
- Two witnesses.
- A gift from groom to bride called mahar, or dowry.
- Making the news public.
- A meal called walimah offered by the groom’s family for guests.
Q, Who pays for the wedding?
A. There are many cultural variations, although at basic level it is the groom and his family.
Q. What kind of food is served?
A. All kinds as long as it is halal.
Q. How should I dress as a guest?
A. Whatever is modest and shows respect for the hosts.
Q. Can Muslims marry people of other faiths?
A. Muslim men can marry “people of the book” e.g. Jews and Christians. A Muslim woman may not marry a non-Muslim, unless he first converts to Islam and then by permission of her father or guardian.
Q. Do Muslims only have arranged marriages?
A. Short answer is no. Introductions especially in the West may happen from family, friends, online, or at work.
Q. Do Muslim men have 4 wives?
A. The norm in Islam is monogamy, and although polygamy is practiced by small minorities in Africa and Arabian peninsula it is the exception. A woman can stipulate in her marriage contract that her husband not take on another wife. As a reminder in most Western countries polygamy is against the law.
Q. How is sex in Muslim marriage?
A. Short answer, great. In Islam, the general rule is all things are permitted except those that are prohibited or disliked. Anal intercourse, intercourse during the menstruation, and right after child-birth (for a period) are forbidden.
Q. What if I have other questions?
A. This site is a general resource. However, it is not produced by Muslim scholars. For any detailed questions it is best to consult an imam or someone knowledgeable in your local Muslim community.