Who Pays for What in a Muslim Wedding?

In Muslim cultures, there are two very different cultural traditions of who pays for what. In Desi (Indian sub-continent culture) it is the bride’s side who pays for most of the wedding. In other cultures e.g. Arab, Afghan, it is the groom’s side that pays for most of the wedding.

Along with this add other variables: cultural influences, different geographies of bride and groom’s families, as well as the dynamics of the family situation, gives you many permutations. Below is a general guideline that you can adapt to your situation. There will be many other expenses that do come up. Use you and your families’ best judgment and spirit to decide who should pay for what.

Bride, Groom, or Joint Expenses

  • Reception expenses including flowers, decor, and wedding coordinator
  • Photographer and Videographer
  • Invitations
  • Bride’s wedding dress and accessories
  • Groom’s suit/tuxedo

Bride and Families Expenses

  • Engagement Party
  • Bride’s family gift to the groom’s family
  • Groom’s wedding ring
  • Dholki (bride’s family friends)
  • Mehndi (Henna party)

Groom and Families Expenses

  • Brides engagement and wedding rings
  • Groom’s family gift to the bride’s family
  • The bride’s bouquet
  • Boutonnieres for groom’s (barat)
  • Marriage license
  • Imams officiating fee or gift
  • Transportation from reception for bride and groom
  • Honeymoon expenses
  • Transportation and lodging expenses for the groom’s family